Where does your confidence come from?

Where does your confidence come from?

I recently listened to a couple of radio broadcasts about confidence and its place in modern life. The topics included having confidence in your own opinion, confidence to do terrifying things like walking across a tightrope, confidence that you’re doing the morally ‘right’ thing, confidence as self-assertion, ease in your own skin, confidence rising above substance, and outward confidence giving us a wrong perception of what’s going on underneath.

We are so quick to give opinion, ever more so because of access to social media. Is our ability to give an opinion a sign of confidence?

Most of my friends and family would say I am confident but what does that really mean? That I can overcome my fear enough to stand up and talk in front of people? That I am sure of my own abilities? That I understand who I am and like that person? That I can make small talk on a Sunday morning? That I can put forward my opinion? That I can ask for what I want? I’m not sure all of these apply to me!

The company I used to work for ran confidence building skills workshops for lone parents who had been long term unemployed. I used to sit at the back of these training sessions with motivational speakers and think to myself, this is all very well but does speaking out loud mantras of self-love really work? No! God is the only one who can give true confidence, the only one we can have FULL confidence in, the only one who assures us of our identity, who adopts us as His own and loves us unconditionally. I’m not sure confidence is something you can just conjure up. The dictionary says confidence is, ‘the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something’. The truth is that people let us down, even our closest friends and family will fail us at some point. But the bible talks about who we can be confident in, the one who never fails us:

“Therefore brothers, since we have confidence to enter the holy places by the blood of Jesus, by the new and living way that he opened up for us through the curtain, that is, through his flesh, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near with a true heart and with full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for he who promised is faithful.” (Hebrews 10)

In a world that seems to require all kinds of confidence, it is so comforting to know that when we know God, we are secure because our confidence does not need to come from our own ability or self-assurance, but from the one who made us, died for us and gives us hope for the future. The one who promises to never leave us or forsake us, who adopts us into His family, and whose promises are steadfast. The one who tells us we are wonderfully and fearfully made, who has good plans and purposes for us. He is our confidence – the only confidence we need.

“Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear; though war break out against me, even then I will be confident.” Psalm 27


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